What Makes Women So Unhappy
For when I tried to keep the law, it condemned me. So I died to the law—I stopped trying to meet all its requirements—so that I might live for God. My old self has been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me.
The reason Jesus came is because it is impossible for people to keep God’s Law and be made perfect by it. No one can accomplish it. So God made a way for us to be saved that has nothing to do with how well a person can obey laws all the time.
But now God has shown us a way to be made right with him without keeping the requirements of the law, as was promised in the writings of Moses and the prophets long ago. 22 We are made right with God by placing our faith in Jesus Christ. And this is true for everyone who believes, no matter who we are. 23 For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard. 24 Yet God, in his grace, freely makes us right in his sight. He did this through Christ Jesus when he freed us from the penalty for our sins. 25 For God presented Jesus as the sacrifice for sin. People are made right with God when they believe that Jesus sacrificed his life, shedding his blood.
God did not free us in order for us to imprison ourselves with something else. The reason so many woman are very dissatisfied these days is because they are trying to perfectly adhere to a diet or exercise program that someone else promised would give them what they want. And they are disappointed and let down when they can’t stick to it or get the results they want. Unfortunately, Christian women get caught up in this too. The simple truth is that people, Believers and unbelievers alike, can’t keep laws; that’s why God sent Jesus.
God knows we can’t obey anything perfectly; that’s why he sent Jesus. Some Believers put this great gift of salvation on the back burner and try to be their own salvation in other areas of life. They mistakenly think that since they don’t have to worry about sin and death that they’ll strive for their idea of perfection in other areas. Then frustration and self-loathing creep in when they go off their diet and never set foot in the gym. Who asked them to do these things in the first place? Someone selling a book? Some beautiful stranger on a podcast or a vlog? Did we forget where the idea that “you can have it all” even came from?! It came from Satan, ya’ll. (See Genesis 3)
We can’t “have it all.” God never promised that. He did, however, promise us his Son and generously lavishes his Holy Spirit (his power) upon all who believe in Jesus. So if there is anything I need to do today to live for him better, I get those thing from him not me. I can do those things through him. His generous power of his Holy Spirit is available to me to help me with everything I actually need for today. For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him. (Philippians 2:13)
If I think I can get up this morning and not need him for anything because he already saved me, I won’t accomplish much and end up disappointed because my imperfect, unreliable self is all I’m accessing.
And nothing Jesus adds is burdensome...
Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light. (Matthew 11:28-30)
The blessing of the Lord makes a person rich, and he adds no sorrow with it.
If I feel like a failure at life today, it is because I looked at someone else's standard and didn't meet it, I've based everything on what I am able to do in my own will power, or I've decided who I am without the power of the Holy Spirit will just have to do; and these little self-imposed prisons make for a very unhappy woman.
If you are a Christian woman who is very unhappy and upset with herself lately, pray something like this...
God, I need you to help me be patient with my children.
God, I need you to help me not eat when I’m just bored.
God, I need you to help me get my butt of the couch.
God, I need you not a life coach, exercise program or diet book.
God, I need you.